I know I am late with this but the season premiere of Grey’s Anatomy got me thinking about friendship. What defines a friendship? Is it making a connection with someone who “gets” you? Is it a shared situation or a convenient presence?
If you are familiar with the show you know that two of the main characters, Meredith Grey and Christina Yang are friends. Let me take that back. They are more than friends. They are “the one” for each other. As in, the one person that gets them. The person that accepts you for who you are. Flaws and all. I like to call it your “Ride or Die”.
Everyone should have a “ride or die” person in their life. Take an inventory of the people in your inner circle. I bet you can pick out the one you know will hold you down no matter what. It may not be your significant other either. I would suspect that for most people it isn’t their significant other.
Take the Grey’s episode as an example. Each character was having an issue with their spouse which could be stripped down to their men not totally “getting” them. Something bad happened and the dudes couldn’t deal. It was as if they suddenly forgot the person they married. The ladies turned to each other. Meredith confronted Owen on Christina’s behalf. Christina helped Meredith when she panicked and disappeared with Zola. No judgement, no conditions. That’s the type of friend you want in your corner.
Are you that friend in return? My sister and I discussed this and she made a profound statement. “Most people think they are “Ride or Die”, she said. “But they really aren’t. And they may never have a reason to prove it.”
I agree. You may never have an opportunity to step up and show how the person you love that you have their back no matter what. But you just might. What will that situation reveal about you? Are you a “Ride or Die” friend?
I like to think that I am one.
What I’m listening to on the iPod right now: “In Your Eyes” – Peter Gabriel
What I’m reading now: “Mogul” – Terrance Dean