Dream Deferred….Dream Realized

I attended my sister, Baby’s graduation on Friday. She is now a licensed cosmetologist.  The ceremony was held at the school and was relevantly simple.  Each graduate had to write a paper about their time in the program and the things they learned.  I was nervous when Baby’s turn came because she hates to speak in public.  She walked to the front and needed a tissue before she said one word.  This made my water works flow.  (Sidenote:  The tears are nothing new for me.  I am a known crier.  I’ll tear up at a sad commercial.)  But my sister did her thing and I was inspired by  her speech.

Here is a summary of what she said:

  • She talked about how she always liked doing hair.  In fact, after high school we (my family) all expected her to go to cosmetology school.  Instead, she wanted to get away from home so she enrolled in college.
  • She got pregnant after a year away so she came home and got a job.  Twenty months later she had another child.
  • She didn’t want to depend on the government for assistance so she would work any job she could get.  Then she got a good job with benefits and made decent money.  She got comfortable and forgot about her dream.
  • Then her entire division was laid off.
  • Unemployed and depressed, she talked to LA about her life.  Expecting sympathy, she got a kick in the behind.  “DO something about it”, LA said.
  • So, she did.

I listened to my sister talk about the financial hardships and other obstacles that she had to overcome.  She talked of being grateful for the support of family and friends.  And there she stood, a year later finally realizing her dream.  She already has two job offers from different salons.  I know she will do well.

The lesson I learned that day was that although your dream may be deferred, you can still achieve it.  My baby sister did it.

Congratulations, Victoria.  I am so very proud of you.

Sister Love

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This past weekend I got to hang out with my sisters.  LA (so called because she lives in Los Angeles) was in town to celebrate her birthday with family.  Baby (so called because she is the baby sister; see what I did there?) and I were happy to be a threesome again.

I am the oldest of three girls.  I can say that with pride now although that wasn’t always the case.  Being the first born has a lot of pressure.  I constantly heard how I had to be an “example” for my sisters.  How I had to walk a righteous path so that my siblings would clearly see the right way to go.  And I tried.  God bless my little teenage heart but I did try.  I soon realized that my sisters and I are very different.  They each have chosen their own paths and I celebrate and support their unique life journeys.  Besides, my kids, these are the two people that I have known their entire lives.

As we have all gotten older, I have realized that there is nothing that can compare to a sister’s love.  It is a feeling of knowing that at a moment’s  notice they will be there for you.   I know that I can call on my sisters for anything and without question they will provide whatever I need.  They are my best friends.

I tell my two daughters, Princess and Diva, to  take care of each other.  I tell them, “Friends and boys will come and go, but your sister will always be there.”  I pray that they will always have each other.  All they have to do is look to me as an example.  My sisters and I are now 42, 38, and 32 years old with kids of our own.  Sometimes I still see us as those three little girls in the above picture.  Sisters that became women and friends.

Chris Paul To The Clippers? Thank Goodness Someone’s Looking Out For Donald Sterling – SBNation.com

As if anything the NBA does nowadays makes any sense, here is further evidence…………..

Chris Paul To The Clippers? Thank Goodness Someone’s Looking Out For Donald Sterling – SBNation.com.

UPDATE:  The deal is off!  Who is running this league?  I think it’s time for David Stern to step down.

When Your Kids Are Bilingual…………..

I am the parent of two teenagers.  As part of this mission, I have accepted the responsibility to keep up with the times.  I am well versed in Lil’ Wayne, Drake and Trey Songz.  I know about Jordans and snapbacks (baseball caps in my day).  I understand the capabilities of Facebook, Twitter and iPods.  I can text with the best of them.  What I don’t understand are the words that are coming out of my kids’ mouth.

This past weekend I hung out my daughters.  Princess and Diva (not their real names) are always good company.  They joined me as I ran errands and window shopped.  It was during this excursion that I learned that my girls are bilingual.  The signs were there.  They both take Spanish in school.  But this language was something different.  Example:

Diva:  “Mom, I want a camo jacket for Christmas.”

Me:  “What’s a camo jacket?”

Diva:  “A jacket.  All my friends have them.”

Me:  “Huh?  What is a camo?”

Diva:  “Mom, you are so lame.  I’ll show you.”

We go to the Sports Authority store and there we find the camo jacket more commonly referred to as camouflage.  You know, something a hunter or the military would wear.  When they go hunting.

Why would a teenage girls want to wear this?

After a quick exit from the store, our conversation continued.

Me:  “I’m not buying that?”

Diva:  “Why?”

Me:  “It’s ugly and I’m not spending my money on it.”

Diva:  “You don’t have to like everything I like.”

Me:  “That’s true. But I have to like it if I’m buying it.”

Princess (who has been laughing and making comments the entire time): “Hunnerd?”

Me:  “What are you saying?  Hundred?”

Princess:  “No.  You say hunnerd.”

Me: “What does that mean?”

Princess:  “You know, it means ‘true’ or ‘that’s right’.”

Me: “Then why don’t you just say true.”

Diva:  “Mom, you are so lame.”

All of our conversations end with me being labeled “lame”.  And I can live with that.  At least I know what it means.

What do you think?  Do you think speak another language?  Any colorful phrases you want to share?  I can’t be alone in this.

Where is the love in R&B music? – CNN.com

This is a question that I have wondered about for quite some time.  The lack of love in modern music is why I keep my iPod on constant rotation.  Where is the love indeed?

Where is the love in R&B music? – CNN.com.

The Obligatory What I Am Thankful For Post

You know what this means. You need to be grateful............

There are certain things that can be expected this time of year.  Football,  turkey dinners, family get togethers, Black Friday sales followed by Cyber Monday sales and a bombardment of “thankful” lists.  These lists are from various people bragging about how great their lives are and we should all applaud them for recognizing it.  I have resisted the urge to add to this phenomenon but I couldn’t think of anything else to blog about so here goes.

Things I am “thankful” for in no particular order:

  • My family (Okay, if you don’t put that first people will talk about you.)
  • To be gainful employed (I need money to pay bills, buy scratch off lotto tickets so I can stop working, buy food and books.  Lots of books)
  • The NBA Lockout is finally over.  Now I can watch the Lakers on Christmas Day.
  • Google (What did we do before it was so easy to look up random facts like “Did Michael Jackson really write all of his songs?”  Seriously, as a writer I love Google.  It saves time on research.  I mean, what did people do before when you wanted to know something?  Actually talk to people?  The horror.)
  • Friends that get me and love me unconditionally. (Thank you for the material.  Oh, you didn’t realize that I’ve based a character in my book from your adventures?  Pay no attention to this list.)
  • That they finally found Sophia on The Walking Dead.  Even though she ended up being a zombie and Rick had to shoot her in the head.  (On a side note, I am totally on Team Shane.)
  • Music – I love music
  • The Closer is back for five final episodes!
  • And the big one, health.  (You can’t put a price on good health.)

These things can go on and on but I’ll stop there.

This Thanksgiving season, what are you thankful for?

And They’re Back!

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Looks like we’ll have a season after all.  I’m glad we get to watch some games on Christmas Day but couldn’t they have done all of this months ago?

When Your Parents are Dating………Other People

My parents divorced when I was 13.  After a couple of years I gave up all illusions of them ever getting back together again.  This post isn’t about some wish that they would reunite as a couple after all these years.  No, this post is about dealing with your parents as they date other people.

In the thirty years that my parents have been divorced, they have each married other people.  One marriage ended in divorce and the other ended when a spouse died.  So, they are both single and (God, I hate how this sounds) dating again.  My dilemma is:   what is the proper etiquette to follow if you don’t like someone your parent dates?  Everyone is an adult in this situation but that is still my parent.  I feel the need to look out for them and protect them from harm.  Should I voice my opinion even if it is based on a feeling and not hard evidence?  Should I stay silent and supportive and hope they figure the person out for themselves?

I’m struggling here.  Any advice would be appreciated.

Is urban fiction defined by its subject – or the skin colour of its author? | Books | The Guardian

This is a question I have been wondering about since I began to seriously write novels of my own.  Check it out.

Is urban fiction defined by its subject – or the skin colour of its author? | Books | The Guardian.