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Flashing Lights – When the Police Question Your Kid

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The day started out like any other.  Most days are ordinary until suddenly they aren’t.  A phone call.  A  hysterical daughter on the line.  Cops.  A search.  And I am speeding down the road to get to my child that is being questioned by the police.

Short story:  Someone called the restaurant and claims they are coming to buy drugs from my daughter through the drive in window.  Manager calls the police.  Police questions my child and searches her vehicle.

I meet with the policeman and refrain from cursing him out for being overly aggressive and scaring my daughter.  I maintain my composure when I talk to the manager and get the details and chain of events from him.  But when I saw how upset my daughter was I almost lost it.  All I could do was hug her and ask her if she was okay.

Bottom line, someone’s idea of a practical joke could have had dire consequences for my daughter.  She could have lost her job and been arrested.

I assured my daughter that she didn’t do anything wrong but I advised her to never give consent to the police for a search.  Some may say, “Well,  if you are innocent you don’t have anything to hide.”  I say, “There was no cause for a search so the police over reached.”  He knew he was dealing with a scared teenager and went too far.  I am not naive enough to believe that the police are always right.

That was a parenting moment that caught me off guard.  What would you do if it was your child being questioned by the police?

*Photo courtesy of davidsonscott15 http://www.flickr.com/photos/webhostingreview/with/3090392251/#photo_3090392251

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Bodybuilding – Get in shape with Confusion

I can attest to this. I’ve been working out for about five months now and noticed that my weight lost was stuck in neutral. I need a new plan to change things up.

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Mother’s Day – 2013

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I read somewhere that becoming a mother is having your heart on the outside.  Every word of that is true when I look at my two daughters.  This is a salute to all the mothers who take care of children whether they grew underneath your heart or in your heart.  Please enjoy this day to do whatever makes you happy!  You are appreciated.

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Prom Night – A Mother’s Thoughts

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My daughter, Princess (not her real name), went to the prom list night. These are the thoughts t hat ran through my mind as I waited up.

  • My daughter is growing into a beautiful young lady
  • I hope she has a good time
  • I hope she is safe
  • Did I set her curfew too early or too late?
  • How in the world am I going to stay awake that long?
  • Who am I kidding?  Sleep won’t happen until I hear the garage open.
  • Say a prayer that she makes it back home safe.  Add a prayer for everyone else’s kid as well.
  • Realize that late night television programming is the worst
  • I should have rented a movie from Redbox
  • What am I going to cook for dinner tomorrow?
  • Did I cover everything in the “Don’t Drink or Do Drugs” speech?
  • What if there is an accident?
  • I don’t need to think about any accidents.

I finally had to call my sister on the West Coast to take my mind off all the things that could happen.  I am an admitted “worrier” but my imagination takes me places I don’t need to go.

In the end, Princess made it back on safely and on time.  No need to worry.  Until next year.

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You Can’t Go Back

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But if you could………………… What time period would you like to revisit?

Leaving everything that came after the same, I would redo the four years of college.  I would change the college I attended and my major.  Coming out of high school I had dreams of being a journalist and attending Spelman College.  Instead, I went to a local school and chose what I thought was a safe major.  Business Administration.

Here’s the thing about time though.  You can’t go back.  You only have today.  You only have the moment.   

It’s fun to talk about things that you would change.  But that’s all it is.  Talk.  Try to live your life with no regrets!